Giving up on a goal?

What do you do when someone stomps on your dreams??? I had this experience earlier this week, when I was told that even though My Goal Friend was a good idea, and a clever name etc that it wasn’t really a great business plan and would probably not work!!!! Arhghgh. Do I give up now, before even finishing? This I feel is part of the story of my life. When people say it will be hard, or might not work I generally give up. Is that what I want here? I can tell you then answer to that is a very loud NO!!!!
I really believe that people, women in particular need, want and would thrive in this kind of environment, both online and offline. I’m going to put these questions out there in the form of a survey, which I hope lots of people will complete. There are other goal related sites, books, magazines etc, but I find a lot of them too hyped up and I also crave an actual meeting of like minded people. Some others I find too spiritual, and I really believe I’m not the only person that feels like this.
What am I going to do though, is look at the business and my other business Some Kind Of Bliss with a fine tooth comb and do a Pros and Cons list for both. Evaluate where I am up to with both, the income being generated versus the expenses and the likes and dislikes of each. I also need to take into account my strengths and weakness and that I am still a single mum of a 5 year old and I work full-time. I know women in much harder circumstances have achieved much much more, just look at JK Rowling!!!! But this is my story, so let’s see what I come up with.
Why am I telling you all of this? Well, sometimes people with the best of intentions throw a spanner in the works. I don’t think they do this maliciously they just do it with their glasses on, not yours. Regardless of this, if someone has said or done something that makes you doubt our goals, then maybe it is time to reassess. If their action has no consequence to you, then you are probably well & truly on the right path.

I would suggest doing the following list:
1) Why do you want his goal?
2) What is it that they said they made you think?
3) What is the best thing that could happen if you achieved this goal?
4) What is the worst thing that could happen if you didn’t achieve this goal?
5) In regards to this goal what are your strengths and weaknesses?
6) What does the market place say about this type of goal? Eg, if you want to join the latest networking group, what are people saying about it.
7) Finally, take some time out in peace and quiet to work out what your heart really thinks about the goal.

  When you have finished all if the above – which is what I’ll be doing this week, you should have a clear answer about whether to continue with the goal, modify the goal or stop going for this goal.

The difference between a goal and a dream

What is the difference between a goal and a dream??? I have dreams and I have goals. Most people have dreams, but only a small percentage of the population cement these dreams into achievable goals.

A dream is the biggest thing of all. To dream is amazing, but sometimes we need to be a little more realistic.

I have a dream of owning a super yacht. It would be chartered out 10 months a year, and so would become a business and personal pleasure. Is this a goal of mine? No, because I can’t put a time frame on getting it, I can’t measure my success towards getting it and I don’t even know which one I want.

I have a smaller goal towards this dream which is to get back into sailing, starting in February 2011. One day or evening a month. This is specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely!!!! I’ve researched doing it, joined a group that I can sail with, and have been organising myself so I can do it.

I spent years of my childhood living on a 50ft ketch called ‘The Red Highlander’. My family no longer own it, which saddens me, but hasn’t stopped me from my dream. I know when I get out on to open water, or even sit in a park by the harbour my whole view of the world changes. Everything is ok when I am on or near water. Which begs me to ask the question, why on earth do my daughter and I live in an apartment which doesn’t have a pool, let alone be located anywhere near the water??? I know, it’s because in Sydney to live with a pool or by the water you need lots of money or you need to be the kind of person that can find a bargain and do it up. Neither of which is me. It will be one day though….see another dream of mine.

Every goal I set is a step to take me to my dreams. Each decision I make in business, and personally will lead me to my dreams. Are your goals leading you towards you dreams or to the dreams of someone in your life? Chances are you won’t achieve you goals if they are not inline with your bigger dreams. I have learnt this over and over again, I should rephrase that. I have been shown this time and time again, I think now I have finally got it into my head. Yeah!!!!!

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