The Power of Flow

Flow. You know, that feeling when everything is aligned and you are on fire!!!! Don’t you wish you could have that feeling everyday? Unfortunately, reality (ie the shit hits the fan) sometimes and you can feel like crap – but when it’s all going well, woo hoo!!!! The Power of FlowSo how do you know when you are in Flow? It’s easy. That’s it. Plain and simple. The tasks that you have to do, the clients you have to contact, the research you have to do – all just happens.
  • Comparatitis disappears
  • You feel proud talking about what you are doing
  • You feel stronger, healthier and more energetic
  • Bad habits fall away (eating, shopping, drinking etc)
  • Your relationships improve
  • You walk a little taller
  • Issues don’t seem as big
I could list a million other things………….but that might bore you. Think about the water pictured. It doesn’t question – Is the waterfall up the road prettier, faster, quieter?? No it just is. When you feel like that – it’s Flow. Can you fake Flow? I don’t think you can fake Flow, but I know you can think you’re in Flow – but you’re actually not. Been there done that. That’s when you do enjoy what you do, and there’s nothing staring you in the face as really big problems – so it’s ok. You get what you need to get done completed. You get clients. You show up. But that it’s. Nothing spectacular happens. When you are in Flow – that’s when magic can happen. Over the last couple of weeks I have been working on a new project, and I am a different person. It’s not that I wasn’t me before, or working well. Nothing was wrong at all, but now it just feels so right. I think this can actually be a little hard to explain. It’s one of those things that when you know, you know. Like finally getting a pair of heels that don’t hurt. You think to yourself, why wasn’t it like this before, or why didn’t I do this faster. Then the beating yourself up comes to play. DON’T. Stop right there. If you are in Flow it’s for a reason, and the rest has just been a part of the journey. Other ways you can think about Flow.
  • Your A Game
  • Your Zone of Genius
  • Being aligned with your Passions
When you are working in Flow. Nothing else matters. You’re not suddenly drawn to that nights episode of MasterChef. You have the ability to focus on each singular task till it’s done. That’s a very important point. You see, I am not a believer in multi tasking. You can multi think – but multi tasking is hard, and usually ineffective, so why bother. You are much better off focusing on one thing at a time, and getting it done well….and it’s easier when you are in Flow!!!! Things to remember about what you do…..
  • Be passionate
  • Ditch It, Delegate It, Leverage It and Live It
  • Focus on you and your business, not what is going on around you
  • Take time out to figure out what you need to tweak to be in Flow
I did a full life audit. Every job, every business, all my personal projects.
  • Worked out what I loved and what I loathed
  • What I was good at and what I was not so good at
  • The people I loved to be around
  • The BIG picture of my future
  • The things that inspire me daily
All will be revealed in time, but with a couple of small tweaks – I am more aligned and in Flow now than I have ever been. Now I actually understand Flow from an experience point of view, rather than an intellectual one. DO IT!!!!!! This weekend, take an hour out of your day (or more if you want / need) and do a mini life audit. I promise, even with a couple of changes you will do more, be more and feel more, by being in Flow.

Your Perfect Day

Today I wanted to touch on what so many Business Coaches and Life Coaches touch on. We don’t all do it, because it was in the coaching manual 101 – we do it because it’s so important. Your Perfect Day. Your Perfect Week. Your Perfect Month. Your Perfect Year. Sounds like a lot to do, doesn’t it? To some of you it may even sound like complete bullshit. No such thing as a perfect day. Well, it’s rare, I will agree – but it does happen, so plan it the way you want it and see what happens! I suggest doing this exercise with some peace and quite and in a space that makes you feel fab. So don’t do it in front of the tv, with the kids screaming, while you’re getting up every 5 minutes to stir the dinner. There’s a series of questions you need to ask yourself. Answer them all – please. You can also grab a download for the exercise here. What time do you wake up? Who do you wake up with? Where do you live? What is the first thing you do? Perfect Day by a Perfect Pool What are you grateful for? What are you excited about? How do you feel everyday? Where do you work for the day? How much do you earn a day? What do you do for work? Who do you work with? How many hours do you work? What exercise do you do daily? Any spiritual or education plans? What fun activities are planned? Describe your family time? What are your relaxation rituals? What time do you go to sleep? Once you’ve got these questions answered, I want you to get really creative. Spend some time writing an imaginative paragraph (or 5) about your perfect day. Be as descriptive as possible. You should be able to feel it, picture it – if it involves spending an hour in a coffee shop with friends everyday, I want you to be able to smell the coffee (now I need to go make one – what did we do before Nespresso). Don’t stop at Your Perfect Day either….keep going with the questions. I sat down and re-did this recently. I’ve rushed all my life. Multiple jobs, businesses, commitments etc. Getting in and out of my car. Wrestling with Sydney traffic. I’m over it. I like to be a lot calmer now. So I work from home, not the office a couple of days a week. It means I can relax and spend some more time before and after school with Elodie and I get lots done (but that’s a whole other post about setting yourself up to work well from home). How many days a week do you work? How much do you earn a week? What fun activities do you do? How many holidays do you take a year? How many seminars do you go to? How much do you personally earn a week / month / year? How do you give back? Again, spend some time writing really descriptively about your year. If you want you can get really creative and do a vision board, or mind movie about it. It’s actually impossible for us to work productively for 12 hours a day, 6 days a week, 50 weeks a year. But so many people feel they have to do that. It will make you sick, destroy relationships and chances are – you won’t make you any more money, than if you were actually working how you want to work. You achieve magic when you are happy and contented with your work structure. I love doing this exercise every so often. It also helps to show me how far I’ve come. Some things I’ve got on my agenda for this year are Elodie and I doing some volunteer work, sailing and a massage once a month and having dinner with friends at our house more often. None of those are huge – but wow they make me feel better when I’m doing them. Lastly – what is one thing that you can do today, that it will make it more of a Perfect Day? Go on, do it, I dare you!!!!!