Silence Your Nerves To Let Your Charisma Shine

SilenceYourNervesToLetYourCharismaShine - Samantha Leith

PICTURE THIS

You’re about to walk into a meeting.

You feel a bit jittery inside.

In your head you’ve made it the most important meeting to ever happen.

The reality that it’s a monthly budget meeting is irrelevant, because in your head it’s almost life & death.

You walk in.

Eyes down.

Feet shuffling.

You sit.

Paperwork falls out in front of you.

You hear a mumble.

You swear they are saying terrible things about you.

The meeting starts.

Conversations happen.

There’s a problem with your department’s figures.

You want to speak up, yet you remain silent.

The CEO says his peace.

You leave the meeting wanting to quit.

‘I’m hopeless’ ‘I knew they’d find out’ ‘Should I just leave now?’

STOP

Take a breath.

We’ve all had experiences like this.

Why? Because you let your nerves overtake any capacity for your charisma to shine.

You need to quiet the noise of nerves in your mind, in order to step into who, you are.

Anxiety will lesson your confidence which impacts your charisma.

To be charismatic you must be fully present.

Nerves take you out of the now.

So how can you prevent this from happening again?

THE NEW VISION

You know you have a big budget meeting today.

You wake early.

You know your prepared work-wise, but you want take time to get in the zone.

Meditation.

Coffee.

Exercise.

Yummy breakfast.

Dress in your favourite outfit.

Get to the office early, so you don’t have any ‘shit I’m going to be late’ nerves.

Before going into the meeting, you have your notes in order, with coloured stickies on the really important bits.

You go over the agenda, and think to yourself, where you can be of value to others on their points.

You accept that you’re a little bit nervous.

You take deep breaths as you are walking to the room.

You stand and step into your power pose and enter.

You make eye contact with everyone who’s already in there.

You remember your unique strengths and that you are meant to be there.

As the meeting continues, you hold your head high.

You listen with empathy and understanding to others.

You enthusiastically pitch in when appropriate.

You bring up the issues you know are there when it comes to your agenda item.

You speak with enthusiasm about being able to sort the issue.

Your belief in this is where your charisma really shines.

Every person in that room believes you have what it takes to fix it.

The meeting ends and you leave with your head held high.

IT’S THE SAME MEETING!!!!

You simply didn’t let nerves overtake you.

We can learn to enhance our charisma, it’s a muscle much like confidence is, but what is really important is silencing those jitters that make you doubt yourself in that lead up to being able to shine.

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What Are You Scared Of?

What Are You Scared Of - Samantha Leith

WHAT ARE YOU SCARED OF?

This question can be unbelievably powerful if you stop to really think about it. It can be a truth teller, a motivator and a problem solver all at once if you answer it with candour.

This question is about the fear that holds you back in life because I don’t believe in fearless. Fear is a natural human emotion and one that is necessary. Fear is what stops people from fighting bears or jumping out of tall buildings. It’s can also be a positive motivator; fear of failure can drive people to work hard and fear of poor health can guide others to create positive lifestyle habits.

Fear can also get in our way though. Many of us have a passion and a fire to do something, but we allow fear to stop us. Unfortunately, it’s often the creative realm that suffers the most from fear. We’re scared to step outside of the status quo.

As adults we are told to focus on work, focus on ticking the adult boxes of house, marriage, children, career and to stay in our lane. We are rarely told to nurture our creativity or drive hard towards the things that make us happy, and so these are often the things that we are scared to explore.

I’m not just talking about creative writing, drawing, dancing and the like. Your creative passion might be in creating new business ideas, a new computer code or a new way of doing your work. Your passion may lie within the realms of your everyday life and there is some fear preventing you from exploring that creativity.

Maybe it’s fear of failure, fear of rejection or being scared of what the world thinks. Whatever it is, it’s important to know that you do yourself and the world a disservice by holding back.

Failure is necessary on the path to greatness, so embrace it as you explore your passion. As Rachel Hollis says, “failure is the price of admission”. You can’t expect to be perfect at something the first time you try, so see failure as a stepping stone. Similarly, try to welcome rejection, because it can make you better as you hone your craft.

If you’re exploring your passion then it doesn’t matter what the world thinks, because you’re filling your own cup and bringing yourself joy. Plus, the world is full of creative thinkers who bubble with differing opinions on greatness. If you put your work and ideas out into the world, chances are you’ll find some fans, some customers or some collaborators.

There’s too much to lose when you don’t start in the first place.

So, I ask you again.

What are you scared of?

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