[365 Days of Extraordinary] Day 111 Transcript: Are You Living A Passive Or Active Life?

by | Apr 28, 2020 | 365 Days of Facebook Lives

That’s bad form yawning just as my live starts, so sorry, just start again. Happy Saturday yep, Saturday night and it’s 6:52. Tonight I wanted to talk about, and it’s episode 111. Can you believe it? 111. I should have stayed up until 11:00 to do it. I can’t believe I’ve stuck to something for that long. What I wanted to talk to you, that’s not true actually. I have stuck to things lengths of time longer than this previously. I don’t think I’ve been so committed on a daily basis to anything and not giving myself leave passes to you can have a day off. Yeah, I’ve never been this committed. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you to everybody that watches, to everybody that shares, to people that comment, send me messages. I’m eternally grateful because doing this has really changed a shite load about my life, my business, how I feel, what I’m doing. I’ve grown exponentially in 111 days, which is fricking awesome.

Leads me to tonight’s topic, are you living a passive or an active life? What do I mean by that? I’m not talking about are you asleep or are you at the gym. I mean are you taking action to control your life, what you can control in your life, because obviously there are things that happen in our lives that we actually can control. Whatever’s on your I like to call my little rug, it’s my little Persian rug. I don’t even like Persian rugs, but anyway. On that rug is everything I can control. Off that rug is the stuff I can’t control. That’s kind of my definition of passive versus active lifestyle.

I’ll give you an example. This morning, I woke up feeling pretty crappy. I’m going to be honest. It’s been a massive week. I’m really tired, physically tired, mentally tired, and I got to the gym. I wanted to do an RPM class, one of those cycle classes. I got to the gym at 7:26. It was pouring of rain, grumble, grumble, grumble, grumble, grumble, grumble, grumble. Finally got to park. Got in there. Class was full. I think there’s probably about 40 bikes in the class I guess, 36, something like that, and it was full, couldn’t get in. Didn’t have my Air Pods with me so I was like no, I can’t go and just get on the exercise bike by myself. Didn’t have my boxing gear with me so I couldn’t join the boxing class. It was blem, grumble, grumble, grumble, grumble, grumble. I snapped out of it and went, Samantha take responsibility here. You know these classes get busy. You should have got here earlier. Really dude, you should have got here earlier.

I went downstairs because I didn’t have my phone on me either so I couldn’t even walk on the treadmill and listen. Again, grumble, grumble, grumble. Went downstairs and I saw there’s another one at 8:30. I went hmm, okay. Now passive Sam, Sam of the past, Sam who may have let all that get the better of her, would have taken that and gone see I’m trying to do the right thing and the gym class is full, so I’m just not meant to be here and nothing goes my way, victim mentality, victim mentality, victim mentality. Come home and gone back to bed. Active living Sam, who is taking control of her life, has taken control of her life and is doing whatever she can to have the best possible life, went home, had another coffee, then left and went back to the gym and made sure she was there 15 minutes early, parked and at the class door 15 minutes early so I could get a great spot.

See the difference? I didn’t let those circumstances go out of my control, effort, I’m going back to bed. That’s one of the big signs of living your life passively, is when you get into victim mode or flight, all that kind of woe is me stuff. When you let life just happen to you, it’s when you procrastinate more than the normal person, because let me tell you, everybody procrastinates. If anyone tells you they never procrastinate, they are lying. Everybody does it to some extent, sometimes, pinky promise you.

Pinterest - A passive approach to professional growth will leave you by the wayside - Samantha LeithLack of decision making is another big sign of you in a state of living a passive life. The absolute passive, oh gosh, I’m going to get tongue tied. Anyway, if you are really bored because of the same routines, so oh, here we go. I’m not talking about strategically having the same routines. People can strategically have the same routines, like they wear the same thing all the time because it takes away, and we’ve talked about that before, decision fatigue, it takes away decision. People, especially if they’re training on a certain regime, they might eat the same thing for every single meal to take that decision out to make sure their macros are correct, all that kind of stuff. That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about the, oh here we are in the car again. Here I go to the office again. Nothing’s ever interesting. I’m just doing the same old, same old, same old, same old.

Well have you actually tried to change anything because you can spice up your life. In the words of the Spice Girls spice up your life, come on, every boy, every girl, spice up your life, colors of the world, people of the world. Unwilling to change, you’re unhappy but you’re unwilling to actually take the action needed to change what you’re unhappy about. Big sign of being passive in your life and it comes back. I believe it comes back to you feeling that you’re put on this planet and life happens to you, that everything is set in stone. My mum used to say that your belly buttons, and I’m not religious and I’m sorry if you are I’m not making fun, but she used to say you’re babies. Before we’d had the talk, actually we never had the talk. I’m still waiting for the talk. She used to say that babies were on a conveyor belt, and as they went down a conveyor belt, God would go done, done, done and that was your belly button.

Back to living a passive lifestyle life, you kind of have the idea that when they’re done buttons pushed, like it’s set in concrete. Your life is mapped out for you and you just have to take it. Take it. This is my life yet, whatever. I’m going to get it. This is it. Okay, here we are. Give it to me. No, no, no, no, no, no. Yes, you were probably born with some preordained magic in you, like I call your X factor, but what you do with that and where how that takes you in life, that’s it. That’s yours baby. That’s totally yours.

I want to give you a few tips on how to be more active in your life. Again, not to admit my running a marathon. I’m talking about being active in where your life is going and how you live your life, how you lead your life, because believe it or not, you’re actually a leader in your life. Like people say, I’m not a leader. You are. You get to lead your life and if you’re a parent, God, you get to lead them, till they turn around and lead you. So keep learning. Oh my God. Number one, keep learning. Keep learning. Keep learning, keep learning, keep learning, keep learning. Okay.

Spice up your life. Like change things up. Take a flamenco class, French cooking class. Do something different. Spice it up. Okay. Set goals and then do what you actually need to do to get the goals, because believe it or not, just writing the goal and sticking it up on the wall doesn’t make jack shit happen. Okay. Was a myth perpetuated by people who misunderstood the universal law of attraction and many other universal laws. Okay.

Get creative creativity breeds so much goodness in up in us, so get creative, creative, get creative, get creative, and magic happens. When your creative juices are flowing, you seem so much more possibility and potential in things. That will lead to you being more active, I promise. Yeah.

Get organized. Get organized. When you write a to do list, you should have a to do list check. Take control of everything that’s got to get done. Set a to do lists and do it. Okay. We’ve talked about that before. Brain dumping, putting things timed it in your calendar so you actually get stuff done.

Be really intentional with the stuff you do. Okay. So an example would be if you’re living a and passive life and someone says our lunch at Joe’s. Yeah, yeah. Okay. Yep. Thanks for the invite. Yeah. Lunch is good. Yeah. Okay. What active person might go, Oh, I’d love to catch up with you for lunch, but we’ve been to Joe’s the last three times. You know, I’ve read a review of this other restaurant. Could we maybe give them, would you be willing to give that a go? You see, end result is you’re still having lunch with the person, but change it up. Try and be a bit more active in it. Okay. Unless of course they own Joe’s, is their restaurant and they probably just want you to go to their restaurant, but you know what I mean.

Accept responsibility for what is going on in your life. Oh my God. All the good, all the bad, all the mediocre, except responsibility for it. I’m not talking about someone praying into your car or something like that, but where you are in this particular moment, your financial situation, your relationship situation, your health, all that kind of thing, your job, any of that stuff, accept responsibility for it, the good, the bad and ugly, because that’s when you can take action to change things that you’re not happy about. Okay. If you don’t accept responsibility for it, and the job happened to you, or the relationship fell in your lap so you might as well stay in it. Better the devil you know is bullshit people. Once you accept that responsibility, makes it a lot easier to change.

Another one, you know, I’d talk about it until I’m blue in the face. Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude. I’m going to mix it up, two points of gratitude here now. This is something new to me. It’s new to me, so I’m going to learn more about it so I can explain it in greater detail and better detail. My number nine one is gratitude. I want you to the, things that happened in your day, the things that happened last night, or things in your life that you’re grateful for, whether it was the great coffee, the fabulous pillow, you know, someone letting you in and the lane. Write that down. Five things that don’t remember.

The number 10 thing I want you to do for my tips for being more active in your life is future gratitude. Now, this has never occurred to me. I’m a big futurist. I Visualize, I visualize, I visualize. I write down my big dreams. I write down my current goals. I write down my goals for the year, every single day. It had never occurred to me to practice future gratitude until I heard about it. What I mean by future gratitude, tongue-twister future gratitude is picturing that end goal, but getting into the feeling of the gratitude that’s going to surround you and be inside you when you reach that goal. When I work with them, any of my clients on goal setting and achieving their goals, we talk a lot about the celebration points and how they’re going to celebrate achieving that goal.

The gratitude for that goal I think is something different. Yeah, get future focused enough to feel that. Thank you so much. You know? I’m not going to tell you my big, I won’t tell you what my big dreams now, but okay. Say one of my dreams is, yeah, my limitless event that I want to have in 2021 and I want to have it at ICC and I know the number of people I want to hear have there and I know the price point I want it to be there. I am now going to start practicing the gratitude and what I need to say to myself about how I’m feeling at that particular moment, what I’m going to be thankful for. Hopefully that will help keep me in that action mode towards achieving that goal.

There you go. My 10 tips for leading a more active life in terms of taking control of your life rather than being a passive passenger on this great train journey called life. Okay, so there you go. Have a great night. Happy Saturday. I hope you’re all doing something fabulous tonight and I will see you speak to talk to you at some stage on the inter web.

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