[365 Days of Extraordinary] Day 148 Transcript: Compliments

by | Jun 24, 2020 | 365 Days of Facebook Lives

So, you know what it means when I’m in the kitchen. It’s dancing time.

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I don’t know the words. Hey, Good Looking. Is that a song? What about-

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Oh, look at my hair when I do that. Tonight I want to talk about the power of compliments because us chicks, we’re not so good with … Someone gives us a compliment, and we generally go, “Oh, this old dress?” or, “”Oh, I’ve put on a bit of weight,” or we might say, “Oh, I’ve had it for ages.” We might laugh it off. We do all sorts of things to not actually say … To accept the compliment.

What I want to say about that is it’s not only disrespectful to you, as the person that’s getting the compliment, it’s disrespectful to the person who’s giving the compliment. They’ve taken the time and the energy to say something nice to you, and people don’t do that unless they actually mean it. Really, they don’t. Have I got something in my teeth? I feel like I’ve got something in my teeth. They don’t do it unless they generally mean it, so don’t brush it off.

Pinterest - Compliment people. Magnify their strengths, not their weaknesses - Samantha LeithWhat I also want to say in that is don’t be scared to give compliments, especially women to women. I had a woman come up to me in Coles randomly this afternoon. She walked up behind me, and she tapped me on the shoulder, and she said, “I just want to say you look beautiful. That dress is fabulous.” I was like, “Oh, thank you.”

Now, a couple of years ago, I would have said, “Oh, it’s old,” or I would have, “Oh, but I don’t have heels on,” or I just would have downplayed it. I’ve put on weight. We know the lingo that we use. This old thing. Just say, “Thank you.” That’s all you need to say on any of that. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Don’t be a dick about it.

When a compliment is genuine, whether it be about a service, or about what you’re wearing, or how someone smells, or something they’ve done to assist you when they didn’t need to, just give love back. Just give genuine love back. It’s not that hard. It’s not that hard. Now, things we can compliment people on. There’s a gazillion things you can compliment somebody on, but always, always come from a genuine place.

Now, when this lady complimented me this afternoon, I was kind of shocked because she just said it, and I said, “Thank you,” and then she walked off. A couple of aisles later because you go up and down the aisles, as you do in Coles, I saw her again. I again said, “Thank you. Do you like dresses?” She said, “I really like dresses,” but she was wearing a skirt and a top. She said, “Today, I couldn’t decide what to wear, so I’ve got the skirt and top on, but I love dresses.” I said, “Well, this dress” … We then had this conversation. This dress is from Leina Broughton, and every Tuesday they go online and they sell some dresses. They usually run out, so sign up to their mailing list, blah, blah, blah. This camaraderie was struck up.

Now, if I was a networking genius, which I’m not, I probably could have taken that conversation a step further, and gone into a different track. Business, what do you do? All those kinds of things. It’s not my area of expertise. That rapport building and having that genuine conversation with her all off the back of one compliment, that’s gold and it’s lovely. She felt appreciated because I’d heard what she said. I felt appreciated because someone noticed how I was looking today, and now I’m standing here doing this Live. All I can see is, yeah, it’s a good color, but all I can see is negatives. I’m thinking, oh, I don’t have the right bra on.

I’d actually also just walked out of a physio massage appointment, so I’d been face-planted for 45 minutes, so all my makeup’s all run, and it didn’t matter. I didn’t need to negate what she was saying and take that power away from her. It was really, really, really lovely.

So, I want to just encourage you to give people compliments. It made my day. Literally, it made my day. If you think someone is doing a good job or they look great, anything, give the compliment. Do not be afraid to do it, and take the compliment, and do not be afraid to just say, “Thank you,” okay, even if it’s a brand new thing that you spent a gazillion dollars on, and you’re feeling really shameful about having bought it, don’t downplay it. Just say, “Thank you.” The power of the compliment, okay.

Night-night. See you all tomorrow. I might go and … Yeah, bye.

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