[365 Days of Extraordinary] Day 218 Transcript: Confidence & Decision Making

Samantha Leith - Confidence and Decision Making

Hey guys. Well, that’s not very good. There is a… Let’s see if I can make that better. Is it better? That’s a wee bit better. So tonight I wanted to talk about decision making and how it helps your confidence. Now you might think that just seems a bit, “What? What do you mean?” Let me tell you, it makes a huge difference, massive difference. You may have heard me joke which I do very, very frequently, that I’m a Gemini. So neither of my personalities can make up their mind. And whilst that’s true a lot of the time, my most confident self is when I step in and make a decision. And why does it help us? Because we’re not second-guessing ourselves, we’re not in situations where it’s altered with the way the blue or the pink, the blue, or the pink. I don’t know, show me the blue or the pink.

What do you think? Oh, you think pink? But Oh, you think blue? Oh, should I wear the blue with a pink? And it goes round and round and round and round and round. And sometimes it’s an internal conversation and sometimes it’s an external conversation that we have with people to validate our decisions when we’re feeling less confident. And a more confident person, and a more confident way of being is going, “I got the pink. The pink is going to happen today.” And then there’s those situations where, just one example of how decision making can help you build your confidence and stay confident. And sometimes even the smallest decision like what to have for breakfast can set you up for a confident day. And that’s why a lot of people you find with… Because we’ve spoken before about decision fatigue, when they take out a lot of the having to make decisions, that also helps with your confidence because you’re not having that internal question or those external conversations about decisions that need to be made.

Pinterest - You can't make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen - Samantha LeithAnd that can be like really not seeming very important decisions. They can paralyze you and crush your confidence and that’s not what we want. We want confidence to be built up and us to get stronger and that muscle I talk about with confidence, we really, really want that. So another example is when you’re in a situation and you’re feeling a little less confident about yourself. You might’ve had a bad day, you might’ve been intimidated by the people you’re with and they’re having a discussion and they might be discussing something political, might be something in a work situation and ideas conversation and you take the middle road. You’re like, “Oh, I can see what they’re saying. I can see what they’re saying. So I’ll just remain neutral because I can appreciate what you’re both saying.” Make a decision. Sometimes, yes there can be a middle road. But sometimes, you actually just need to go, “Oh, no. I agree with that road.”

Or, “I agree with that road but I think we should put something else into it.” And I used to do this a lot and the other one’s playing devil’s advocate. We’re like… Because you don’t want to be seen to agree with somebody because you don’t want to decide that they’re right or they’re saying something that you agree with so you come in with another argument. Just stay in your truth and stay in the… Keep your confidence going by making a decision and sticking to it. And one of the things with there can be a lot of politicians especially, or they can be scholars, they can be coaches you’ve listened to, they can be business people you’re seeing and you really don’t agree with what they’re saying and a lot of time you’re like, “Oh my God, I can’t believe they believe that.”

Yes, totally agree with you. I have those conversations where I’m like, “Are you kidding me? You think what?” However, they’ve still got confidence in themselves and they’ve made a decision about what they believe. They’re following it through, they’ve stuck to it and that keeps their confidence going. So they’re better off whilst you might completely disagree with the decisions they’ve made, they’re more confident than the people that are going, “Oh, I’m just not sure what I believe. I don’t know how much good that’s actually really doing.” Make a decision people. I promise you, if you start making decisions quicker, faster, and get to it, you will feel better. This has been what I’ve really, really had to work on and I’m getting better at it. I don’t think it’s definitely not perfect, but I don’t believe in perfect. I’ve got a long way to go on it I think.

Yeah, and I do have a long way to go of it but I am so much better and it really, really has helped my confidence. And it’s the decisions and everything from what you’re ordering at a restaurant to what you’re doing with your business. It’s so important that you just make them. Do not get stuck in indecision because it will absolutely crush your confidence, it will, no doubt about it. That one, you got to agree with me on, okay? Decide to agree with me on that one. Now, if you haven’t taken my seven day confidence challenge, please do because it’s fun. Go to www.7dayconfidencechallenge.com and it’s the number 7, not the word seven. Sign up and have fun doing it and I will see… Oh, Hey Amanda. I will see you tomorrow. Bye.