[365 Days of Extraordinary] Day 225 Transcript: Cause You Gotta Have Friends

by | Sep 1, 2020 | 365 Days of Facebook Lives

Cause you got to have friends to make that day last long. Yes. Back in kitchen, back singing and dancing. Today, I want to talk about friends. Why do I want to talk about friends? Because, well, we all need friends and I’ve seen a couple of threads about it recently, and then one of those fabulous Facebook reminders came up today, that from a couple of years ago where someone had posted that moment when you look at your best friend next to you and realize that you’re both effing legends, and it got me thinking, I am surrounded by some bloody legends.

They say you are the sum of the five who we hang out the most with, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, and that’s true in terms of networking. It’s true in terms of your health. It’s true in terms of your boundary setting, I reckon is a big one because if we’re surrounded by people with good boundaries, we cannot go, oh, it’s okay to have good boundaries. It’s true in terms of money. If you look at the five people you hang out the most with and you average that income, that’s probably what you’re earning. It’s true in terms of familial staff, family values, friendship values. It’s true in so many ways, and I’m blessed.

Pinterest - Yah got to have friends, to make that day last long - Samantha LeithI have a wide circle of friends. I’ve got friends in all sorts of places all over the world that do all sorts of things and have all sorts of crazy businesses and fabulous businesses and different looking families and rainbow families and rainbow children and uncle Tom Cobley and all, that what I am so grateful for is that my core group of friends, some of them, I’m having dinner with one of them on Wednesday night, I have known for close to 30 years. Now, I’m 45, so that’s a big chunk of time, and it’s a blessing. I’m so lucky. I’m so grateful.

What I’m also doing this year is because I tend to be a bit of a social butterfly is taper off on that a little bit because I’ve got lots of work things and other goals I want to achieve, and concentrate and really spend time with those core friends, those really good friends, and they may be neighborhood friends, they may be friends from far gone past, they may be people I’ve lost touch with, but want to reconnect with, but I’m so grateful for each and every single one of them. What you need to look at with friends is whether they’re here for a season, reason or a lifetime, they are here and you need to treasure them when they are here.

I’ve gone back to this year and I did it a couple of years ago. Wasn’t so good at it last year, is every single day randomly picking someone on my phone and just calling them and saying, “Hi”, and it doesn’t matter if I spoke to the person the day before, or I spoke to the person five years ago, reconnecting with people and just saying, you know what, I’m thinking about you. You’re my friend. Thank you. That’s enough.

Today for you guys, all I want you to do is pay attention to who your friends are. Are they effing legends or are there some people in your life that’s like, yep, we’re done? Our friendship has come to a close. We’re okay. It’s time to move on because through different phases of our life, we can kind of collect people that don’t necessarily need to come with us on the next journey. Okay. It’s okay then in a couple of these times, we pick up the phone and go, hi, how are you doing? But you don’t need to obsess about maintaining that friendship circle.

The ones that are really close to you, they’re really precious. Those ones that you can tell your deepest, darkest secrets to, they’re like the most precious diamond and likewise, and you are one of my diamonds and an effing legend. We have to polish them and nurture them, but, but, and there’s a big but here. I like big buts and I cannot lie. How funny was that?

You shouldn’t have to work on a friendship. If it is a true friendship, you can go through the curves and the dips and the swings and the roundabouts and the ups and the downs and the tears and the tantrums and the happy days and the drunk days and all of those fearful days, all of those days and maintain the friendship.

If a friendship needs a crap ton of work, like you get that guilt if you haven’t called them. Oh my God, they’re going to hate me. I haven’t called them. Oh, I haven’t been out to dinner with them in a month. They won’t be my friend anymore. They’re that kind of friend? It’s time to go. Thank you. We’re complete. Move on. And you don’t actually need to have that conversation by the way. You need to have it in here.

That’s my tips for friendship today. I just want you to remember your closest friends are probably effing awesome. Give them a call today. Say hi, thank you, I appreciate you, I love you and thank you for being my friend and I will see you all. Thank you guys for being my friends because the messages I get and the little popups when I’m doing my lives and things like that, I really, really thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Have a great day. Bye.

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