Hi, guys. Yes, I’ve put lipstick on. Yay, it makes me feel so much better even though I still feel like shit. Anyway, beside the point. Today, I wanted to talk about, what is the worst thing that could happen if you take a chance? So earlier this week, I was listening to a podcast with two women I really, really admire. I think they’re both incredible. They were talking about all sorts of things, but one of the things that came up quite frequently and it was taking a bold, audacious chance on something, and just putting yourself out there and seeing what could happen. And I was like, “Okay, yep, this is really, really, really resonating with me.”
One of these women is actually putting on an incredible event, and it’s one of my bucket list, “Would really love to speak at that event,” kind of thing. I just got inspired and I never do this. I’m an overthinker from way back, so I have to actually thank you guys for being part of this journey in what I call the Year of Extraordinary, where I am taking chances I never would have taken before. I’m overthinking things a hell of a lot less. You’ll see by the end of the year, but it just really, truly has been incredible.
So I emailed this woman. I messaged her on Facebook and I emailed her with my current show reel and why I would be a great fit for the event and how listening to her on the podcast had inspired me by something she’d said because she’d taken action. I just went for it, just went for it. This morning, open my email and there’s a really polite, nice rejection letter. Samantha Leith, Samantha Mary Leith, from maybe even months ago would have been really upset. “Oh my god, I got rejected. I’m hopeless. I’m useless. No one’s ever going to love me. I can’t. I’m not going to succeed.” All that language that I know is not true, intellectually, I know is not true. But when you get rejected, that kind of stuff happens. And I was like, “Awesome. I got rejected. But I sent the email.” I was so . That was random. I was so happy that I’d actually put myself out there and done it.
I felt not relief, no, because I’d really love to speak at the event. So if you’re watching this, next year. But I was just like, “Yeah, so I got rejected, but I asked,” and that’s just such a new thing for me. So the last couple of years, I’ve really worked on that, putting myself out there a lot for rejection, almost like inviting rejection, kind of, I think, in a weird kind of way. Because, the more you invite rejection in and take chances, the less you care about the results, the less you care about the rejection. Go for 100 nos. It’s a time proven technique. Go for 100 nos because the yeses that you get through those 100 nos will just be incredible.
So yeah, challenge today. My challenge for you today is ask for something. Go in to your boss and ask for a raise. Don’t just walk in there, have reasons why you deserve the raise, obviously. Ask someone out on a date, ask them for a bonk, if that’s what you’re after. Send your stuff off to a conference that you want to speak at. Call someone you really like, would be your ideal client. Call someone who you’d like to be on your board of advisors, virtual or not, and say, “Hey, can we have a coffee? I’d love to chat to you about some things.” Put yourself out there. Just do one thing today that is taking a massive chance and I promise you, the more you do that, the more you’ll start to feel, “Yeah, I got rejected. Next. Thank you. Next.” Great, great cue for an Ariana Grande song, “Thank you. Next.” Have a great day, guys, and I will see you all tomorrow.