Again, with the Dickie dance, because you all were kind of expecting it now, right? Sam’s doing a funny dance. Let’s watch. It’s why you tune into my lives. I know it’s all about the dancing and do we like my earrings? Red lips. So I thought I’d go for the red lipstick tonight.

I’ve had a couple of people comment today on my earrings. And like, “Oh, don’t they hurt your ears?” They’re really light. The trick to wearing dangly earrings is make sure you wear light ones. So you don’t … It’s got nothing to do with this live. But, as a bit of a check in, to make sure the earrings you buy aren’t too heavy because then it does hurt. I’ve actually had headaches from big, big, heavy earrings. Totally not anything to do with this live. Tonight’s love is all about pleasure. Yes. Having the confidence to go for pleasure. Shh.

So pleasure is a funny one. We want it. We don’t want to tell people we want it. We a lot of the time, we don’t want to admit to ourselves that we want it. And we quite often where we’re not going for pleasure as a badge of honor. So we do the hard thing. We do the thing we have to do. We might put ourselves out for the sake of other people rather than doing something that makes us feel good because we think for some reason, somewhere there’s a chalkboard with a little marker going, “They didn’t go for pleasure. So we’ll give them another tick.” There is no school board like that, people. There is no value to not doing what makes you feel good. And I mean not everything. I mean the music you listened to, the food you eat, the people you go on dates with, the decor of your house, the job you have, the way you show up in the world.

Pinterest -- Take your pleasure seriously - Samantha LeithSo, we all know the things that make us feel good. We do, we know them. We don’t have to sit on a mountain top staring at the snow to decide what makes us feel good. We know what makes us feel good, but we push it aside because we think it’s what we’ve got to do. And the confidence that you have to have to say, “You know what? I actually like my steak, medium rare, not rare. Sorry. I’m going to admit it.” And you’re going to have six people at the table looking at you going, “Really? No rare’s much better.” Who cares? That’s what they think. It’s not what you want. It’s not what gives you pleasure. Now I’m not talking about doing things for your pleasure that cause other people’s pain. And I’ve done a lot of talking about the fine line between pleasure and pain in terms of things we do to ourself.

So go back and watch that live because that was a really good one. Just have a look on, for pleasure and pain, because that’s very, very worthwhile. I’m talking about when it’s not going to impact people or hurt people. Impacting people’s one thing hurting people’s not a good thing. Go for what makes you feel good. Okay? There is no badge of honor. There’s no brownie points. You’re not going to get a Girl Guide badge because you chose to do something that didn’t make you feel good. Give you an example. You go hanging out with friends on a weekend and your friends want to go roller skating. Okay? And your idea of hell is going roller skating. But they’re talking about meeting up for lunch afterwards. You’d love that. So you’re like, “You know what? Roller skating is really not my thing. How about I just meet you guys for lunch?”

So you’re allowing yourself to have the pleasure. You’re being very open and honest about your choice. And you get out of roller skating. People hurt themselves doing that. Look at me with my running. It’s not a bad thing, but for some reason when we’re younger, we get drilled into us that taking one for the team is a really good thing. Just because you don’t like black coffee, they’ve poured you black coffee so drink it. No, you actually don’t have to. You don’t need to be a dick about it. Again, there’s a live about that. But, you do need to do what makes you feel good. What I encourage all my clients to do, and what I’m going to encourage you to do is every day, pick two things, just two things. Top of your list, pleasurable, two things that are going to give you absolute pleasure.

They don’t have to be big things. It can be buying yourself a bunch of flowers. It could be going, “I’m going to have that expensive lunch today.” It could be an extra half hour sleep in, although I don’t encourage that. I do encourage getting up early in the morning and getting all that stuff done. But pick two things every day, that from the tip of your toes, to the top of your hair, make you feel good. Give you pleasure, because the confidence that you’ll build in yourself from learning how to ask for or how to do the stuff that makes you feel good is immeasurable. That is worth way more than any scout badge you’re going to get for doing something you don’t want to do or having something you don’t want to do. Okay? So I encourage you all. I want you all to think about it because you know, okay, you don’t need to gaze at your navel.

You know what gives you joy. You know what gives you pleasure. So tomorrow when you’re writing the five things you need to do tomorrow, and in the Do It Diet, we try and do five things every day. When you’re writing the five things you want to do tomorrow, I want you to make two of them about absolute pleasure, please. You’ll love it, you’ll love it, you’ll love it.

Okay. I will see you all tomorrow. Tomorrow’s about courage and have a great Wednesday night. If you haven’t already head to, the number three, six, five, days to join in on the party on the last night. I would love to see you there. I think we will be doing something live. So the details will go out for that. But you do need to be on the list to do that. And let me know. I want to hear what you’re going to do tomorrow that will bring you pleasure. I can’t wait. Bye.