Hello, happy hump day, Wednesday, yeah, middle of the week. Although, it’s all kind of blurring at the moment. Tonight, I wanted to talk about your confidence crew. We all need a crew. We need a crew of people that have our back in terms of friends, sometimes it’s family, a little bit a lot of the time it is more friends and family, or family of choice rather than family of origin, and then, we have to have these kind of people in our posse that help us be our most confident selves, and I want to go back to my post on body confidence in the blog post I did on this.
This is not about how other people say you are, or think you are. This is all about doing the things, and having the people around you that make you feel better within yourself, regardless of what’s going on in the outside world, regardless of what other people are saying, regardless of people’s commentary on things, regardless of someone saying, “I’m not sure about that color on you.” We want to remove that, we want to have this veil of confidence inside ourselves, that means whenever we get hit by any of that stuff, it’s like it bounces off.
We need a crew to help us through that, and it took me a long time to kind of go, these are the people I like to work with, these are the people I like to have in my circle, these are the brands I like to hang out with, buy from, restaurants I feel confident in, bars I feel confident in, all of those kinds of things. The shoes that make me stand in that way that gives me that centeredy kind of confidence, and we got to find them. We have got to find them, because I’m telling you, and the brand thing’s actually kind of funny, but for many people, they feel great wearing an Armani suit, for example.
You know what? Armani suits don’t do it for me. I’ve been into their shop and gone, “Yeah, no thanks.” Not that I the money to buy anything while I was there, but even if I’d had it, it wouldn’t have done it for me. Collar does it for me, fit does it for me. They’re the things that help make me be my most confident self. Example, today I had my eyebrows done, for the first time in, I don’t know, three months, four months, whatever it is, and I’m a dedicated customer for this one particular person, Alicia Jane, and Sarah Hills, and I don’t like anyone else touching my brows.
I leave there going, “Oh yeah. Oh yeah. I got my Sam back on.” And, it’s the same with my nails. One person does those, because I feel good when they get done. I feel good with the way I get treated, I feel good with the result of that, and same with clothes. I buy clothes from a certain couple of brands, because I like how they fit on my body. Now, I’ve had people say to me, “Oh, Sam, I don’t know if you should wear that dress, it’s a little bit tight.” Well, stuff you. I feel good in the dress.
So, it’s about how you feel, and we’ve talked about it in terms of friends, and I’m going to touch on it again. When you have those friends in your life that regardless of what’s going on, you can have that conversation that makes you go, it’s like that warm woman fuzzy. I feel good, they feel good with not a pat on the back kind of thing, because sometimes that can be patronizing, or a little bit condescending, but that genuine mutual, it’s mutual confidence really. It is actually mutual confidence.
It’s really important to spend time with those people. I want to encourage you to look at, it’s a really easy list to do, actually. Write a list of the people you spend time with, the brands you spend money with, and the things you do. I want you to write all those things down, and I want you to write how confident you feel in any of those experiences. For example, you might like a brand of, let me just pick a brand of shoes. I can’t think of any shoe brands right now.
Wittnaeur, let’s go with Wittnaeur, and you like their shoes, but when you go into this stores, you’re like, “I feel a bit kind of like flat footed, whatever, I want to come out of there.” Then it’s not a confident experience.
They shouldn’t be part of your confidence crew. You want that circle to be the things that always make you go, “I got it, I got it.” Write it down. Work out the brands that make you feel good about yourself, the people that help you feel good about yourself, and the experiences that make you feel good about yourself, and do more of that. Find one thing tomorrow to do that you know will make you feel more confident. Go on, I dare you. In the meantime, I’m just go and look at the mirror at my brows. Bye. Have a great night.