[365 Days of Extraordinary] Day 359 Transcript: Random Days

by | Nov 18, 2020 | 365 Days of Facebook Lives

Hello. It’s Sam. I’m back. Oh my God. Finally, got my phone back, yay. No, the girls didn’t take it all night. Thank goodness. Today we’re going to talk about random days. Now, why is… Why are you talking about random day, Sam? That doesn’t seem that important or that exciting. Want to talk about it from the point of view of someone like me, who is a planner. Okay. So being a planner… There’s a fine line with being a planner, and the line goes between planning and control freaking. Is that a verb, to control freak? But you know what I mean. When you live a life like I do where things are in my diary in half hour increments, and I’ve got to get this done and this done, and this. An A-type personality that I can slip into that it’s okay to sometimes be in that absolute joy of randomness. You wake up and decide to do something.

So today, for example, I woke up and I wanted to eat a cronut. And I had mentioned it earlier this week, and I’ve got a little chat group with some friends of mine in the local area. And I was like, “I keep seeing these Instagram posts and these Facebook posts from this place called Queens Pastri House in Ramsgate”, which is miles away from where we live. But I’m like, “Oh, I want to go there one day.” And I woke up this morning, I was like, “I want to do that. I want to go down there and have a coffee and a cronut.” And I want to stop at another friend’s shop, Uberkate, who sells rings. Want to stop there. She’s got some new stuff, I want to have a look there. So I sent a message, and “Does anyone want to come?” And people like, “I’m busy, I’m doing this. I’m busy, I’m busy.” And two of the women said, “Yeah, I’d love to come.”

Pinterest -- Expose yourself to as much randomness as possible - Samantha LeithIt wouldn’t have mattered to me if no one had come. I woke up in this completely, “this is what I want to do”, randomness feeling. My plans for today were fairly strategic. My plans for today involved ticking off a lot of boxes. My plans for today involved some of the stuff for the setup for Wednesday night, involved some stuff for my birthday, it involved some study, it involved some stuff around the house, like “Got to do this, got to do this, got to do this, got to do this.” All the stuff that needs to get done. And I woke up and was like, “No.”

Now I had an absolutely brilliant day. And if you get a chance to go to Queens Pastri House in Ramsgate, go. Mm-mm. Really, really, really good. You need to go. I’ll post some photos later. But complete spur of the moment, and that’s okay. Now old Sam… I’m not old, but you know, Sam from before I did a whole lot of personal development stuff, would have gotten home now and be like, “Oh, I feel so guilty. I was meant to do that, and I should do that. And I didn’t get that done. And I’m my God, I’m hopeless cause I didn’t do that. And Oh, I’ve ruined the whole weekend because I didn’t do what I said I should do. Or I was going to get done. That means I’m a failure and…”

And oh, the language, the things we say to our souls. Vile, just so vile. And you know what? I don’t feel any of it anymore. I’m home. And I’m like, “I had a freaking awesome day.” Completely random. We ended up at a French restaurant for a beautiful charcuterie plate and a glass of wine for lunch, drive home. Perfect. Perfect day with a couple of friends. And I want to encourage… We all seem to be on this… What’s the word, like a rabbit wheel? Like a… You know the wheels you go round and round. What are they called? Those wheels that rabbits and Guinea pigs and things go around and around them.

A lot of the time we seem to be on those and we’re like, “We’re going, we’re going, we’re going. And we got to get this done, we got to get this done, we got to get this done, we got to get this done.” And we just go around and around and around and we don’t allow ourselves the time or the space, the freedom to just do something. To just wake up and go, “I want to drive to the Blue Mountains for lunch.” Or to wake up and go, “You know what? I’m going to just put my to-do lists to bed. And in fact, I’m going to put myself to bed for the day and spend the day watching Netflix.” And we are so caught up in achievement that on the odd occasion, we let ourselves have those moments. We then spend 24, 48 hours, seven days, some of us can spend longer than that, beating ourselves up for having taken some randomness, then taking a little bit of time for joy to just do something.

So I just want to encourage you guys in the next 24 hours, even if you’re on the tightest deadline imaginable and you’ve got stuff to do, give yourself a little bit of freedom to at one point in the next 24 hours go, “Whatever. Whatevs. I’m going to do this.” Text a friend and say, “Do you want to go to Drummoyne and have fish and chips? Do you want to go to… Let’s just do something different. High tee it in the Blue Mountains.” Whatever it is, do something random in the next 24 hours, because it will fill your soul if you don’t allow the guilt to creep in. Okay. So that’s the important bit.

If you do something random, except that you’re doing it, love that you’re doing it. Feel the joy that it brings you, and then let it go and get on with the stuff the next day. Because the more of that joyous stuff you do, the more you’ll get done the next day. I promise. You will, unless you do it a second day of randomness and then a third and then a fourth, and then that’s a whole other conversation. But for tomorrow, or tonight even, just pick something crazy and do it. Have a great night and I will see you all tomorrow. Bye.

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