[365 Days of Extraordinary] Day 8 Transcript: What body confidence is for me

by | Jul 23, 2019 | 365 Days of Facebook Lives

Hello. It’s a different time of day for me today. I got asked a question a couple of days ago, what body confidence was for me. As many of you know, I’ve gone up and down on the scales over the years, and I’m probably more confident now in my body than I have ever been in my life. To me, it’s got nothing to do with size. It’s got nothing to do with the clothes that people think you should wear. It’s got absolutely nothing to do with what anyone else thinks about how I look.

This is a funny thing, especially if you’ve got children. will often say to me, “Mom, you going out?” I say, “Oh, I’m not going out yet, I haven’t got my face on,” and the jokes have gone, “Oh, Mom, you’ve already got a face.” I was like, “Well, I actually feel better with makeup on.” I don’t care if people see me without makeup on, I prefer myself with makeup on. I feel better. I feel more me. I feel more comfortable, rather than confident, because I already have the confidence, but I actually think it’s just my personality. I like having makeup.

So, to me, it is totally about what feels good on you, in you, around you, the textures that make you feel good, the heels that make you feel good, the cuts that make you feel good. For example, I’ve only had jeans the last couple of years and I still feel quite funny in them. A little denim jacket I can do, but denim jeans, not my thing.

There’s a lot of arguments in mainstream media these days where the body confidence movement, per se, can sometimes be perceived as an excuse to be 150 kilos, 180 kilos, anything like that, and it’s got nothing, actually, to do with that. It is just about being confident in who you are and be willing to show the world who you are.

Funny example. Today I was going out to a lunch and I was talking to a friend of mine and I said, “You know, what should I wear?” and she said, “Oh, don’t be too booby,” and I’m like, “Hello. I’m always booby. I like being booby.” That’s just me. When I have a high necky kind of thing, I actually don’t like it. I don’t like how it feels. It’s not about someone else looking at my boobs. It’s not about being able to drop food down my catchment area, as some people have called it over the years. It’s just, it is my style. It is what I like.

Your confidence is all about letting your personality shine, letting the best you come through, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Confidence has got nothing to do with what other people think. It is about, totally, how you feel, and for me, that is makeup, boobs, and heels. If you get me somewhere where I’m in flat shoes and no makeup and my hair is flat… I could do with a cut at the moment. But again, that’s about me. People since have said to me, “Don’t you think you’re too old for that haircut?” No, I’m not too old for this haircut. When I have that shaved star in there, I like it. It’s about me, and we’re so busy, in particular women, charging everybody. We’re judgy mc judge judge about what everybody is wearing. Unfortunately, for people that aren’t as hundred percent true in their confidence, when they hear that judgy mc judge judge stuff, it breaks them. They’ll stop wearing things, they’ll stop doing things, they’ll stop walking into Honey Birdette and buying something they like. That’s my example.

I know girls that are really, really, really, really, really confident in pants and a jacket. That’s them. And someone might say to them, “Ah, it’s not very girlish, put on a dress.” They put on a dress, they’re not that confident anymore, it knocks it out of them. It’s about what you like, people, not what other people like. So, for anyone who cares anything about it, go through your wardrobe.

This is just one aspect of body confidence. You’ve got to own it. No matter what you look like, no matter your size, no matter the colors you like. And you know what? If you get your color charts done and you don’t like the colors they’ve told you to wear, don’t bloody wear them. Wear the colors that make you feel something. I’ve been told I shouldn’t wear black. I like wearing black. My other colors I love are the opal jewelry colors. People have said to me, “Oh, you’d look great in leopard print. No, thank you. It’s not my thing at all. It might look good, but I don’t feel confident in it, and that’s what it’s about. I just want to hone that into everybody that, especially women, we’ve got to drop the judgy mc judge judge, and be our own confident selves in what we like.

So, go through your wardrobe, get rid of all the shit you don’t like, that knocks you down a peg, and doesn’t make you feel confident. You’re better off having a few pieces that make you feel really confident. Like these earrings make me feel… well, they don’t make me feel confident, because I am confident, but they make me feel like me, and my confidence is about being me. So just being me, that’s it. It’s a little bit of a rant today, so sorry about that. Off the beaten track, but it’s all because I got told not to be too booby today when I went to lunch.

Another thing they said, “Just, you know, don’t go out looking too whory,” and I said, “I happen to do whore very well, thank you very much.” Little bit of a joke, but you know, why not? So be your confident self, wear what you… Oh, look, there’s Charlie in the background. Hi, Charlie. Wear what you want to wear. Don’t listen to others, and when you’re on a public platform like Facebook or Instagram, don’t you judge other women for what they’re wearing. If they’re confident doing something, let them be confident. Don’t take them down a peg. It’s not fair. It’s not right, and we keep doing it and we have to stop. Rant over. Have a great day and I’ll see you tomorrow.

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