EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

Hi, I’m Samantha Leith and welcome to my show. This month is all about Body Confidence. How you feel in this thing that we have. We’re going to go through some boosters, some tips, some tricks, and hopefully have you coming out at the end feeling like your most confident self, no matter what’s going on here.

Confidence Boosters

Here are some fast confidence boosters for you, some of which aren’t directly related to your body, but being more confident in everything means being more confident in your body.

Okay, here we go. You ready?

• • • Exercise.
    • Dress for success.
    • Play music.
    • Change your physiology.
    • Power pose.
    • Smile.
    • Say some affirmations.
    • Flirt.
    • Talk to a stranger.
    • Look back at your past successes in your fabulous file.
    • Journal.
    • Find something to be grateful for.
    • Do something you’ve been avoiding.
    • Help someone.
    • Learn something.
    • Achieve a really quick goal.
    • Go to a social event, and Zoom does count.
    • Do something you would normally say no to.
    • Remove something or someone negative.
    • Write down things that make you feel good, give you a bonus if you do one.
    • Ask for help.
    • Check your surroundings and make an improvement.
    • Take some time for self-care.
    • Have a date night, by yourself too.
    • Do something creative.
    • Look at your future and do some visualizations, dream board, etc.
    • Challenge a negative thought that you have. S
    • plash on some perfume or cologne.
    • Focus on someone or something you love.
    • Eat something healthy.
    • Have a bloody orgasm.
    • Repeat a mantra.
    • Phone your best friend.
    • Have a hug.
    • Laugh.
    • Watch a sunrise.
    • Look at someone great, someone that’s achieved something you want.
    • Talk to yourself with love.
    • And forgive someone, including yourself.
    • Challenge a negative thought that you have. S
    • plash on some perfume or cologne.
    • Focus on someone or something you love.
    • Eat something healthy.
    • Have a bloody orgasm.
    • Repeat a mantra.
    • Phone your best friend.
    • Have a hug.
    • Laugh.
    • Watch a sunrise.
    • Look at someone great, someone that’s achieved something you want.
    • Talk to yourself with love.
    • And forgive someone, including yourself.

Mirror Exercise

To be truly confident is to know, accept, and love yourself. No ifs, no buts, okay. So to do that, we need to look in a metaphorical mirror as well as a physical mirror, okay? And I want you to do this whenever you can. Because when you look in a mirror, you can go, “Eh, I hate that bit. Don’t like that bit. Oh my God, my hips, my eyes, all the wrinkles,” all those things. And you can’t necessarily go from that to going, “Oh my golly gosh, my body rocks. I love it.” Okay. That’s a big leap. So I want you to take it one teeny tiny step at a time. I want you to look in the mirror and find something you love about yourself and say it out loud. Now be honest, you’re probably going to feel like a dick the first couple of times you do this, but then it becomes, guess what? A habit. Okay.

I’ll give you an example. Say you’re looking at your face and you’re thinking, “Don’t like it. I don’t like it. I don’t like it.” How about you say, “I love my lips. Thank you for the words you’ve spoken. The food you’ve tasted and the kisses you’ve experienced. For saying no when needed. And I love you when wanted. For quivering in sadness and expressing anger when warranted. These are my lips and I love them.” Okay. They’re your lips. If you’re judging a part of you, you’re really judging all of you. So say, “I’m sorry. I forgive you. I love my lips. I love you.”

Traits of Confident people

Now for some traits of confident people. You may not think that they’re all relevant to body confidence, but again, I promise that they are. Your physicality is one of the first areas you show how confident you really are.

• • • Have a growth mindset.
    • Live in the present.
    • Be driven by your values, your passion, your vision, and your mission.
    • Ask for help when needed.
    • Don’t be afraid to stretch yourself or to fail.
    • Find happiness from within.
    • Celebrate yourself and others.
    • Have really strong boundaries and say no.
    • Know your strengths and your weaknesses.
    • Get your goals and take action.
    • Act as if with confidence.
    • Have really positive self talk.
    • Honor the commitments you make to yourselves and to others.
    • Do what makes you happy.
    • Be honest, assume likability and success.
    • Be organized and prepared.
    • Be calm, practice mindfulness, meditation, breathing, etc.
    • Be comfortable talking to strangers.
    • Make eye contact.
    • Take time for yourself.
    • Have confident people in your life.
    • Have rituals before anything important.
    • Manage your thoughts and emotions.
    • Notice what impacts you and change what you can.
    • Take responsibility for yourself.
    • Make decisions fast.
    • Know what’s in your control.
    • Listen more than you speak and don’t judge or gossip.
    • Love and appreciate all of yourself. Mind, body, spirit.
    • Be solution focused.
    • Only apologize when needed.
    • Have commitment to your habits.
    • As well as being really forgiving of yourself and the world around you.

Social Media

Yep. We have to talk about social media if we’re going to talk about body confidence. It can be the death knell of our confidence. Ding dong, the bells are tolling and we are quivering messes at home scrolling these perfectly curated feeds of gorgeousness. Most of it’s not real. I swear to you. If you saw the things that we even have to do in a studio to get heights right. It’s smoke and mirrors. So curate your social feed.

And by that I mean your Instagram, your Facebook, as well as what you are consuming online or in magazines. Curate it to be the stuff that makes you feel good, makes you feel happy, inspires you. And if you are inspired by someone, follow them everywhere. Buy their goddam book, but don’t then feel miserable when you are reading something about someone that doesn’t make you inspired, or worse makes you feel less than you actually already are.

Kindness

Part of being truly confident is about being kind to yourself. And it’s never more important than when we’re talking about body confidence. You can literally sit there all day every day and find faults with yourself from every single nook and cranny. We don’t want you to do that. We want you to find the good, but yeah, sometimes that can be hard. So just take time to be kind to yourself, buy yourself something you’re really going to enjoy. Take some time in nature. Listen to the birds, smell a flower, buy yourself some flowers.
If you are feeling down about your body, do something that is going to up-level you in that moment. It might be throwing on some music and having a dance around yourself. I’ve got a song I always listen to when I get ready, especially if I’m feeling a bit, “Meh, whatever, how’s your father.” That song will always pep me up and will make me feel like I’m being yep, kind and loving to myself.

Thank you for watching this week’s episode, All about Body Confidence. Hopefully you’re going to have a little more zing in your step tonight and please do the exercises. If you need some more information or you want to download the PDF for them, head over to samanthaleath.com/freebies, where you will find everything at your fingertips. See you next week. ad over to samanthaleith.com/freebies, where you will find everything at your fingertips. See you next week.

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