Episode 31: What is success and how do you define it

by | Jun 21, 2022


Success is a word that so many of us aspire to, yet many of us never actually take the time to work out what it is, let alone do the work to get there. So let’s fix that now. Hi, I’m Samantha Leith and welcome to the Samantha Leith Show. This month is all about creating that roadmap that you need and getting the tools required for success. Will it be easy? No. Will it be worth it? Hell to the yes.

Success is doing what you want when you want where you want with whom you want as much as you want. Tony Robbins said that and for ages, I had it printed out and stuck on the wall by my desk. Did it help me? Well, it gave me a little extra motivation, but the reality is, I didn’t know what I wanted to do or where, or with whom. You see, like many people I’d bought into the success dream. My mind was swirling with visions of what fabulous people do. The people I admired or somehow wanted to emulate. Then I woke up. It’s like when you realize you actually like mushrooms, when for years you haven’t eaten them because someone once told you they were slimy fungus. The light goes on. What have you been missing? All those mushrooms for years.

Success is like that. We’ve read a book or seen someone online and we think, yep, that’s it. That’s what I want. They look so happy. That must be what success is. No. That time I had a picture of a private jet on my vision board, never going to happen. I couldn’t give a flying all puns intended, who flung dung about having a private plane being. Up in front on a commercial flight, however, totally floats my boat. PS, if it is a boat, I actually need to be able to sail it.

Where was I? Okay. Back to success. Have you actually ever taken the time to really work out what it is for you? The real Googled interweb definition of success is the accomplishment of an aim or a purpose. Great. We’re done. I can stop recording now. We’re going. Come on, let go. No, no I won’t. Because I want to help you to figure out what the aim or the purpose is. Not to get all woo woo on you, but I really do believe that we’re all on this planet for something. It may be huge in public like Branson, or it may be less known like the unnamed teacher who once said that something that planted a seed for a future doctor. We’re all important. Every individual and every definition of success is perfect for the person it belongs to.

Success isn’t a one and done deal. It’s made up of components, just like the rest of our magical lives. Our dreams, our beliefs and our actions will probably have an overarching theme to create that big picture but the different wheels of our life require different things. A definition of success may be more mind based, or it may take along more physical lines.

Let’s take a look at some examples. Success is being happy and grateful. Following your passions, conducting your life with integrity. It’s about the journey, not the destination. Doing fulfilling work, achieving your goals, believing you can, loving and being loved back. Not giving up in a piece. The problem with those definitions is again, different strokes for different folks. What I think inner peace is will be probably different to your understanding of it and I’m a hundred percent sure it doesn’t look anything like the inner peace of the monk I once met.

So maybe success is being a certain weight or a fitness level, owning five holiday homes. Working three days a week, having your movie on Netflix, adopting six children, getting married, moving to Alaska. Getting a medal for a sporting event, making every Nigella recipe or discovering the cure for Alzheimer’s.

See, it’s confusing. What the are you meant to pick? Hang on. Could success be like a pick and mix at the movies? Amazing. A little bit of this, a little bit of that all making up that perfect combo that you dig into for a touch of sweetness, a jolt of sour, or an invigorating crunch. Now I’m really hungry. Yes, I believe it is. Success is, in my mind, living a life where you dream, you believe, you act and you achieve. It never ends. We don’t tick a box and we’re done. That’s the beauty of having a growth mindset which we’ll chat about later.

I guess it’s easy for me to be standing in front of the camera saying dream, believe, act, and achieve. So stick with me. The ability to do these things should be taught to all of us from a really young age. For some kids growing up they’re encouraged to dream and told things like you can do anything you put your mind to. Then they aren’t taught how to actually work on the goal. Whoops. For others they’re told to don’t think too big or be sensible, or maybe they’re expected to join the family business in chicken farming.When they’ve always had a dream that they wanted to be a product developer creating aids for people with disabilities. Baba. Dream big my friends, dream big.

There’s work to do to define success for yourself. It’s like a vision board, but on steroids, I guess. Because success isn’t what happens next week or tomorrow. It’s all the glorious pieces falling into place. The work you do to achieve it, who you become while you are doing it and the rewards for sticking to that path. Magic. First, you want to dream. If you head on over to Samanthaleith.com/freebies. I forget again, you’ll find the worksheet this month, as well as the other worksheets that are going to help you with these questions. Do it, just do it. Okay. Don’t just watch the video and think sure, Sam, I know what my dream is to open a restaurant. Because trust me, my friend, the work does not end there.

Why do you want to do what you want to do? A primary school teacher doesn’t usually become a teacher because they think gee, there’s a lot of holidays. They probably want to help mold the future of a child like someone did for them. Or they could really like those teeny tiny chairs and all that magical color. Maybe. When you are dreaming your life, it can be magic. Well, it is magic. I said that. I didn’t really understand manifestation until about the last 10 years, even though I kind of always had the thoughts. I truly thought and said if they can come up with a tech to fake something in a movie one day it will be able to happen in real life, my friends. Time travel may never actually be a reality and I’m not interested if it is but so many things have come to reality.

Everything in this universe first has to be a thought. It’s all created inside us before it can eventuate. From that idea you had from making a cake to well, the way it took me two years to buy my dream home. First, I dreamt it. I could see it in my mind. I could feel it. What’s your big dream? In this process, don’t even begin to contemplate the how. Chances are that will stop you in your tracks and it’ll stop the dream before it’s even started to take shape. I don’t want that for you.

What’s your vision? What’s your mission? What are your passions? The detailed exercises to go with all of these are in the worksheet, but for now, if you can just… When you stop the video, not right now, I want you to grab a piece of paper and go nuts. Dream big nuts. If you haven’t listened to or read the Reverend Martha Luther King Junior’s speech I Have A Dream, I’d really encourage you to do so. Whilst there’s so much work to be done that dream and that speech changed so many things. There was so much power in his words and his visions. You too can create something powerful. Write your own I have a dream speech. There’s no rules to this. Go wild.

It’s different to letter to yourself or a speech that someone will give at your funeral or hundredth birthday party. This speech gives energy to your dream right now. It’ll give you the gentle nudge or that kick in the butt you need when something happens and you need additional motivation to take the action required to achieve the dream. You really want to take your time with this. If you set aside a whole weekend, like greenery, head to the mountains, or if you’re like me and you want to nice hotel with a water view and sensational bath, that’ll do the trick.

Okay, I’m romanticizing doing this, but why the hell not? It’s all about dreaming after all. I’m also a realist sometimes. Eh, sometimes. So maybe it’s time you carved out a space in your Google Calendar, even 15 minutes a day to just go over a couple of the questions. Your life isn’t short, my friend, and there are no real shortcuts to success. So take the time you need to do this. A hint though, one of the keys to success, which I’ll go over in another episode is about goal setting. So make doing this work a goal and I’m pointing my finger. Pick it out, write it out in the affirmative and do it.

I’m realizing I say do it a lot. It’s really a shame Nike beat me to the punch on that one. Thank you so much for watching this week’s episode of the Samantha Leith Show. Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss any episodes. Grab the worksheets and let a friend who you know is wanting something more know about this video. It may be the thing they need right now to help them be extraordinary.


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