Success is a word that so many of us aspire to, yet many of us never actually take the time to work out what it is, let alone do the work to get there. So let’s fix that now. Hi, I’m Samantha Leith and welcome to the Samantha Leith Show. This month is all about creating that roadmap that you need and getting the tools required for success. Will it be easy? No. Will it be worth it? Hell to the yes.
I know. I talk about habits a lot, “Blah, blah, Samantha, here we are again.” There’s a reason, people. If you want to be successful, whatever version you decide, you need habits that will support you to get there. Coincidentally, the habits you need for success are similar to the habits you need for greater confidence. Imagine that. I know I ask a lot sometimes. It’s good for you.
What I want you to do is work out the habits you need to support your version of success. If success includes running marathons, well, you need a well-tuned exercise habit. You can go back to the November 21 episodes to see about success habits, but here’s some quick stuff we’ll go through. Something cues us, triggering a craving, that motivates a response, which gives us a reward, which then satiates the craving, which then becomes attached to the cue, and around and around we go. Cue, craving, response, reward. Cue, craving, response, reward.
When going for success, forming habits to support it is vital, so take some time out to work out what they are. What is the habit you will need to achieve the success you want? What’s the benefit of this habit? Who do you need to be to make this habit stick? What do you need to believe to stay with it? What will you do to help support yourself in this new habit? When will you start? Who will hold you accountable?
Be prepared and okay with failure here, people. It’ll happen. Even Richard Branson has probably hit the snooze button on his alarm clock some days. It’s okay. Because one of the common themes with inspirational people is, “I get back up when I get knocked down.” Was that a song? I can’t remember. I think so. Anyway, that can be you too, my friend.
So what are some of these themes that I’m speaking of? Some might call them rules, but that makes my stomach clench, and I feel like I’m going to get into trouble if I stuff one of them up. I don’t want you to feel like that. That’s why I call them themes. Here we go. Here we go. Here we go. Here we go. Here we go.
Cultivate a growth mindset. Move your body. Dress for success. Visualize everything you want. Take responsibility. Be grateful. Keep educating yourself. Get great with time management and productivity. Embrace failure. Sleep. Unplug. Surround yourself with positive people. Do not complain. Do the hard things first. Learn to deal with rejection and negativity. Be a boundary boss or babe, insert cute title here. Network. Get up early. Focus on the right things. Make decisions quickly. Take time for self-care and relaxation. Have hobbies. Know what makes you happy, and make time for those things. Journal. Meditate. Set goals. Have a playlist to motivate you. Be interested in others. Make space for focus, thinking, and creativity. Pivot quickly. Take risks. Manage your feelings. Keep your standards as high as my heels.
I’ve actually done a list of 52 that you can grab in the freebie section, but that’ll get you started. It’s not like you need to wake up every day and tick off those 52 things, and your habits, and, and, and, and, and, and. Because guess what? You wouldn’t actually have time to do the work that you need to do to be successful, so do not get carried away. But you need to promise me that you’ll keep thinking about these positive themes and working on your habits. Before you know it, you’ll be wearing them all like a second skin. These themes and habits will in turn have created and supported new beliefs that will help you on the road to success. See, it’s all fitting together like a glove. Happy birthday to me, happy birthday to me, happy birthday, dear Samantha Mary. Oh my God, now you know my middle name.
Anyway, happy birthday to me. Yes, how exciting that an episode is actually released today on my birthday. So, as something special, if you head to Samanthaleith.com/successmap, enter your details there before the end of the month, because I’ve got to end at the end of the month. I’m going to give 10 people a one-on-one hour with me to create their very own success map, so you start the next financial year with a bit of a whiz bang. So it’s like my birthday, your birthday. Happy birthday to me, happy birthday to me. And then we can all create the extraordinary success that we want with our very own map.
You’ve probably heard about a growth mindset. For the purposes of this, I’m going to use it interchangeably with success mindset. The psychologist, Carol Dweck, from Stanford University, has done amazing work in this area. And it’s really important for you to understand and work on your growth mindset to be successful. Go read a book.
A fixed mindset. In this mindset, people believe that their intelligence is fixed and static. A growth mindset, well in this mindset, people believe that intelligence and talents can be improved through our effort and learning. I really love this quote from Carol, and yep, I’m saying that as though she’s my buddy, but no, no idea.
But anyway, there’s another mindset in which these traits are not simply a hand you are dealt with and have to live with, always trying to convince yourself and others that you have a royal flush, when you’re secretly worried it’s a pair of tens. In this mindset, the hand that you are dealt is just the starting point for development. This growth mindset is based on the belief your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts. Love it.
With a growth mindset, okay, here goes, you embrace lifelong learning, believe intelligence can be improved, put in more effort to learn, believe effort leads to mastery, believe failures are just temporary setbacks, view feedback as a source of information. You willingly embrace challenges, view other’s success as a source of inspiration, and view feedback as an opportunity to learn.
With a fixed mindset, however, you believe intelligence and talent are static. You avoid challenges to avoid failure. You ignore feedback from others, feel threatened by the success of others. You hide your flaws, so that you’re not judged by others. You believe putting in effort is worthless. You view feedback as personal criticism, and you give up easily.
Can you see how one clearly leads you on a path of greater success than the other? In really simple terms, a fixed mindset paints you into a corner of your life, and a growth mindset opens up pathways of opportunities. Much of the work in developing success habits and themes and new beliefs ties into this growth mindset, so I’m not going to go back over it.
There’s an exercise that I’d love for you to do, and add it into your daily habits. Okay? At the end of the day, ask yourself the following, “What did I fail at today? What did I learn today? What did I do great today? What can I do better tomorrow?” Starting to observe these things and reflect on them will increase your growth mindset, and guess what? Increase your chances of success.
Here’s a bonus tip. Start using the word yet. I know it sounds simple and a bit corny, but it’s mighty. “I haven’t achieved what I want yet. I’m not very good at this yet.” And do it with the people you care about. It’s okay. You didn’t manage it yet.
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