You’re about to walk into a meeting.

You feel a bit jittery inside.

In your head you’ve made it the most important meeting to ever happen.

The reality that it’s a monthly budget meeting is irrelevant, because in your head it’s almost life & death.

You walk in.

Eyes down.

Feet shuffling.

You sit.

Paperwork falls out in front of you.

You hear a mumble.

You swear they are saying terrible things about you.

The meeting starts.

Conversations happen.

There’s a problem with your department’s figures.

You want to speak up, yet you remain silent.

The CEO says his peace.

You leave the meeting wanting to quit.

‘I’m hopeless’ ‘I knew they’d find out’ ‘Should I just leave now?’


Take a breath.

We’ve all had experiences like this.

Why? Because you let your nerves overtake any capacity for your charisma to shine.

You need to quiet the noise of nerves in your mind, in order to step into who, you are.

Anxiety will lesson your confidence which impacts your charisma.

To be charismatic you must be fully present.

Nerves take you out of the now.

So how can you prevent this from happening again?


You know you have a big budget meeting today.

You wake early.

You know your prepared work-wise, but you want take time to get in the zone.




Yummy breakfast.

Dress in your favourite outfit.

Get to the office early, so you don’t have any ‘shit I’m going to be late’ nerves.

Before going into the meeting, you have your notes in order, with coloured stickies on the really important bits.

You go over the agenda, and think to yourself, where you can be of value to others on their points.

You accept that you’re a little bit nervous.

You take deep breaths as you are walking to the room.

You stand and step into your power pose and enter.

You make eye contact with everyone who’s already in there.

You remember your unique strengths and that you are meant to be there.

As the meeting continues, you hold your head high.

You listen with empathy and understanding to others.

You enthusiastically pitch in when appropriate.

You bring up the issues you know are there when it comes to your agenda item.

You speak with enthusiasm about being able to sort the issue.

Your belief in this is where your charisma really shines.

Every person in that room believes you have what it takes to fix it.

The meeting ends and you leave with your head held high.


You simply didn’t let nerves overtake you.

We can learn to enhance our charisma, it’s a muscle much like confidence is, but what is really important is silencing those jitters that make you doubt yourself in that lead up to being able to shine.